Hi there! Um, I have been really confused about my sexuality, I am a girl by the way. So apparently I have came to the conclusion that I am bisexual. Now, here comes the complicated part, I started off this new school year with a friend that is lesbian and she told me that she loved me and over time I have started to fall for her. So now I am a closeted bisexual that is secretly dating a lesbian that is out of the closet. Am I really bisexual or am I just curious and confused? And how could I come out of the closet if I am bisexual? My brain tells me it’s wrong and I shouldn’t feel this way… But in my heart I know how I feel about her. Thank you to anyone and everyone who is willing to help me and answer my question.
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Thanks for the question. Trying to label someone is very hard if not impossible. I say just give yourself some time and not try and force any kind of label on yourself. You shouldn’t feel pressure, even if your GF is already out as a lesbian and others may already identify as lgbtqquiia or even straight. If it is safe for you to come out as bi, and you desire to tell people, then you just tell them.
My gentle suggestion would be start by thinking about why you think it is wrong to feel the way you do about another girl. We all have our own internalized homophobia, so you are not alone, and a careful introspection will go along way in helping you make your future life decisions.