My 17 year old grandson is struggleing with his sexuality. It’s out of the question to talk to his parents about it. He is romantically attracted to boys. He does not feel that he should be female. He’s had friends tell him if he is gay he would feel as if he should have been born female. He’s very confused. He’s spent time with female friends and said there is just no attraction. He’s not sure what he is. I really don’t know what to tell him. I’ve only said because he is young he shouldn’t worry to much about it and he will figure it out as he matures. Do you have any words of wisdom I could pass on to him to stop him from being so confused. It’s affecting his schooling. Thank you so much for your time. How wonderful that you help!
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Hi. There’s two separate things to consider here; His sexual orientation and his gender identity. It is a misconception for his friends to say that gays feel they should’ve been born female. That is far, far from the truth. There are many, many masculine gay men. Your grandson does not feel he should’ve been born female. He identifies as male. His gender identity is male. He is romantically attracted to other males. His same sex attraction makes his sexual orientation gay. I think the words of wisdom you passed to him were really spot on. He shouldn’t feel pressure to label himself. There will be time for that as he grows and experiences life. A lot of younger people aren’t even labeling themselves. Sexuality is like a prism, there really isn’t just straight, gay, bi, or transgendered, and it’s getting harder to put a label on someone. Best of luck.