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I just found out my husband of 13 years has been cheating on me with men.  He has always been very sexual and we have had lots of really great sex over the years.  What does this mean for our marriage?  Is he gay?  is he bi?  I am so confused! Can our marriage ever be repaired?

Val

Thanks for the question. I would start by checking out www.straightspouse.org. They have a forum where you can read about other peoples similar experiences. Only your husband can say if he is gay, a closeted gay, or bisexual. It may be a conversation worth having with a licensed counselor, who has experience in these specific issues. Is his infidelity a result of him being a philanderer, or is it a deeper cause, perhaps internalized shame about being gay in the open, leading him to have an opposite sex marriage and yet still be gay. And there is still a myriad of possible variables in between. Right now, I would say the focus needs to be on you, and what is best for you to live a healthy, joyous, and fulfilled life.

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