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How do I be more dominate in our relationship? Me and my girlfriend are both femine. But she’s more submissive than I am so I tend to be more dominant, but not by much, I mean if you had to label us she’d be the girl for the simple fact I let her be it, but my personality isn’t very aggressive so I hardly fit being the guy. The problem is that is exactly what she likes, she’s said it to me so many times and I find her pushing me to be more aggressive with her, not even just in bed, I just mean as a person in general, I know I have it in me to be more dominate but I’m not sure how to approach it. Do I just suddenly start being more demanding and possessive? I know she probably wishes I’d declare we’re together in front of people and shit like that but as long as I love her and she loves me, what do I care if other girls flirt with her? I don’t see them as a competition, I’m literally not even remotely phased by them. But she makes it so clear she wants me to really take more control and I don’t know how to do that. My attempts at dominance usually just come across really bitchy and make her mad at me, like I sometimes ignore her or pretend I don’t see her if we pass just because I don’t know how to be around her anymore. I feel like a dork stumbling clumsily through this relationship. For the love of god somebody help me. And don’t tell me to just be myself because I don’t want to, myself = hot mess. She’s the first girl I’ve ever loved and I want her to be the last and only.

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  1. Val Nov 11, 2012 at 23:03

    Well, I think pretending you don’t see her as you pass, or ignoring her are definitely the wrong things to do. Being dominant is as simple as taking her hand and taking the lead, or showing her affection when your out with a group, which it sounds like is what she wants you to do.

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