I’m gay, and there’s this guy that I’ve been finding myself drawn to at work (work at a bar downtown), however I am unable to figure out if he’s gay or not. He’s not your stereotypical “gay” (not flamboyant, likes cars and sports and honestly he seems like he could be a character out of Brokeback mountain mmmmm gay cowboys! haha) This is usually my type so I always have this issue. So far, I’ve never actually liked a man that didn’t end up being gay/bisexual so I guess my internal gay-dar is phenomenal, but I’m not exactly “out” at work. I have this tendency of assuming people know I’m gay. I don’t want to make things awkward at work, nor do I necessarily wish people at work to know I’m gay. The gay acceptance rate at this bar is 50/50. I just want to keep things amicable with everyone haha. I’ ve known him for almost a year now and we get along really well. I find that we exchange looks (eye contact) quite frequently, and we always sort of gravitate towards each other whenever one of us gets to work. I’m 22 and he’s 24 if that helps as far as “mindset” goes… Example: I get to work, sign in, notice him sitting in the back bar, and go about my business, and regardless of who he’s currently in conversation with he seems to seek me out and sits/stands with me  and we chat it up until we have to start work. This has been a regular thing for like 6 months. Recently however, I’ve noticed that he’s been getting physically closer. Like setting his arm close to mine that we’re touching and neither of us adjusts as one normally would to maintain personal space. “Accidental-On-Pupose” bumps into me. I personally feel that he acts differently around me than the other guys. Less rigid, certainly less “manly.”  I don’t know how to go about this situation because normally I would have a mutual friend (usually a girl) bring things up in such a way that doesn’t outright “out” me and feel the situation out and go from there, but it looks like I’ll have to be a big boy and do this one on my own! =D  I feel like I need to somehow get him out of the work context and things may be easier? We’re both leaving the job in about two months so I feel pressured to kind of get things over with, but don’t want to act irrationally with this.