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So, are there any masculine / jock / alpha-males type of guys who are good-looking, drama-free, low-maintenance with resolved father issues who like to watch Sports Center...? Any...? Any at all...? One will do... (Other than myself...)

I found a dildo and small bottle of something that smells like ether. I left it there and have been confused ever since. Now it's gone, is this the signs of being gay? Will the little brown bottle hurt him?

Hi, I think my partner may be gay. I think he knows it too but has been hiding it for years. When we first met, he was very sexual with me and tried to get me to do many things..and even admitted to doing a lot of gay things, going to bars. I have since caught him on gay personal sites, seen emails from men wanting to hook up again, during sex once he said lets imagine there is a guy on either side of us, while he masturbated cos having sex with me didn't give him an orgasm that day, he is in hairdressing industry and worked with gays most of his life, he knows so much about gay lifestyle m sometimes brags about it when we watch tv.

My main concern is that he doesn't want sex..and finds ways to avoid it by blaming me...so we aren't affectionate or having sex for over 2 years..maybe 8 times during that time, all my initiation...but i can see he looks well, radiant., not like someone not having sex...like me. I don't get how he has no desire for me, we are both highly sexual...and now tonight he is going to a known gay bar cos his ex girlfriend owns the bar and he has set up for his cousin to play there as a favor to his ex...i told him isn't he worried its a gay bar..he said its not a gay bar and that that area of melbourne has gays everywhere...he isn't worried. Every time I bring up having sex he gets angry turns it around on me and says if i wasn't such an arsehole we'd have sex..but even on nights we don't fight, he still doesn't do anything. I don't get it at all. Im so frustrated...and at wits end...He is a womanizer and flirts with everyone, but doesn't want sex...I think this is his cover for his love of men. He told me ages ago men arouse him..he has been to mens spas...done everything imaginable. Even once went to a supermarket and 2 gay guys recognized him, they whispered to each other. BUt my partner tried to avoid them and wouldn't look at them when I said they were looking at him. I think he is secretly having a gay sex life behind my back...and is using me for appearances as i got pregnant to him and he finally has a family at 48. He was married to a women for 7 years before me, no kids...but it ended because he had an emotional affair with another women...which was sexual some of the time. He has already cheated on me for first 8 months of our relationship... before I got pregnant, something I found out when I moved in pregnant into his house. At the moment...i kicked him out of house for 6 weeks now and he is coming back in next week. he wants to be together, but I don't get why as he spends little time with me and has no sex with me. I want to move out, but need to be sure,, is he just someone who has had a lot of different sex, is bisexual..i know he has bedded over 1000 women..he is very charming...but i believe he is secretly having gay sex his whole life...and uses sleeping with lots of women as a cover.. I need to make a decision to stay and work at making our life better or just going..I'm at the end of it... Please help me.

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How do I tell if my best friend is gay. He jokes around me when he comes over and we masterbate together but he has a girlfriend that he is never around. Should I ask him? But like I said we will wrestle and he jokes around about stuff you know.

I have a question but with a little background.. Awhile back in my younger years maybe late teens, early 20's... people have told me that apparently I did something w/ another male... I don't recall this experience and I try to make myself remember this experience as best as I can... I don't recall anything... I don't know if I was blacked out drunk or something... but after I moved away from the town and came back... I found out about this and never knew this had happened... I have been dealing with this for quite sometime but I find myself not physically attracted to another male... meaning I don't feel the same way I get "turned on" when I look at a good looking female... if this experience did happen and I have had people telling me that I'm gay but don't remember this occurring... does this mean I'm gay or bisexual??...In my mind I try to see myself with another male but it just doesn't seem to work like I do for a good looking female...can you help me with this so I can be able to move on with where I need to be in this world?