My very best friend is Bi and I am perfectly okay with that. I don’t give a damn about sexuality, however yesterday she asked me out. I am straight but for some reason all of my friends thought that I was Bi. (I don’t talk to a lot of those “friends” anymore) She has been my friend ever since we were little, but recently we have been closer than ever. We love all the same things and we share everything we are too scared to tell anyone else about. I am depressed, suicidal, and self harm, but I am getting help thanks to her. We had the strongest friendship for a long long time, but now it seems to be hanging by a thread. I don’t feel the same way at all so I had to turn her down… Sadly she didn’t take it too well. She has mild depression so I didn’t want to hurt her, but what else could I have done? I want to continue our friendship the same way it was but I don’t think that is possible. I feel really weird about going over to even hang out near her in fear of what could happen. She could hate me. She could ruin my life if she wanted to and I am terrified of that. Argh I’m just so confused. If someone could answer please that would really be nice. If not, I will just hope I don’t screw anything up.
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I am sure she’s crushed and her ego is bruised. It’s hard when you find someone you click so well with and they don’t have the same feelings back. She will get over it. But in order to preserve your friendship you need to not feel uncomfortable around her.
I’ve been on the other end where I have asked out friends and they weren’t interested. They didn’t make a big deal out of it and we went on like normal. Sure the first few times we hung out after that it was a little weird, but they made me feel comfortable by not acting like things were any different between us.
So my advice to you is to be her friend, like you have always been. Be flattered that she liked you and do your best to make her comfortable.