I am 16 year old boy. I am bisexual and I have come to know this for a fact. Nobody but me knows. I can hide it perfectly. I have been thinking about the whole ‘coming out’ thing and don’t really know when I should (college, high school, after college, etc.). But then I thought, “Should I come out at all?” Since I’m bi, I can date all the girls I want with no trouble and only LOOK at the occasional guy or two. Nobody will know and I’ll be safe from any change in perspective towards me. What are your thoughts?
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Hey, i don’t know if my opinion will help u at all, but I thought I would give it to u anyway because I know you must be hoping for some form of an answer. I do not know what your family or friends are like, but it would probably be the best to try and come out. However think about your preference, I know you are bisexual, but do u prefer one over the other. If so, that might change how important it is for you to come out.
I am also 16 and in high school so I know it must be a difficult idea with the whole ‘what will people think of me?’, but u will not want to carry this secret inside. Eventually someone might notice, don’t think no one will because someone might. The thing is if you keep this secret inside u may miss out on a really cute guy that might be perfect for u.
Mainly though, what do u see in your future. A girl and a family, or would u be fine with a guy and a family? Because that makes a difference. Also may I say, don’t get under the illusion that u can occasionally LOOK at another guy, because if that preference is there it could leave you longing for something more. And believe it or not girls notice more than you think, a girl can figure out if their is something more.
BTW coming out in high school isn’t as important because eventually u graduate and leave. College is a lot longer, so high school coming out could let u practice what it is like. But remember people are less ignorant and more accepting in college too.
Still, only come out when you are ready or if you r comfortable. But think about what u may miss out on if people don’t know your sexuality. And lastly some perspectives may change but let people know your sexuality does not define or label who you are and that besides your preferences u r still the same. Don’t let people get to u. Good Luck with everything. And maybe you can answer the question I put that has been neglected to answer amd give me your thoughts. That I would REALLY appreciate. Especially since we are the same age. Mine is the one about being straight but doesn’t know if the guy i like is gay. Complicated. Anyway I wish u the best! 😉