In the last year, I’ve thought a lot about the fact that I might be bisexual. At first this scared me, but then I met this girl 3 months ago who works in my local bar and I like her so much that if there was any chance in being with her I really wouldn’t care. She’s very hard to read, she has a boyfriend whom she’s been with for about a month now, but even over that time there have been a lot of things making me think she likes me too. We started getting close about 3 months ago, when she started coming on nights out with my friends as well as her work friends. We all have close bonds but my friends have told me that there’s something ‘special’ between me and this girl. We would facebook email each other a lot, I find it hard to go one day without speaking to her. Then just before christmas we were on a night out and somehow ended up walking alone together, which is when she told me she’d had a girlfriend before and said to me things such as “I don’t know why I like you so much”, “you’re beautiful, the sooner you realize this the better”, “I feel like I could tell you anything”. Then she took my hand and she kissed me for the first time,it was intense and it lingered but wasn’t full on. Then the next week, it happened again but this time I initiated it and she didn’t pull away. Then we started texting one another, and she was sending hints about coming over to my flat before work. Also, she got me a christmas present and sprayed her perfume on it for me. If I go out without a jacket, she makes me wear her jumper or scarf and when I give her them back she smells my perfume on them(I’ve caught her before doing that). She always hugs me and kisses my cheek and then one night outside the bar she started to kiss my hand then moved her head into kiss my neck and then we kissed again and it felt like a very intimate moment. She always keeps eye contact with me and everytime she sees me, she almost lights up. If my friends don’t go to the bar, I go alone just to see her and she always texts me when she finishes work saying “I’m so happy you came down to the bar” etc. But yet with all of this, she now has a boyfriend (although just recently). I know she’s bisexual but I’m just struggling to work her out. I’ve said she can stay at mine after nights out and she has said yes but then changed her mind and I don’t know if this is because she’s worried something might happen….HELP!
Let's see, you met her three months ago, and she has a boyfriend since a month ago. I would ask her what's up with that? Perhaps she's not into monogamous relationships, perhaps she is, was just curious, found a better suitor, or was just being a tease for whatever reasons she could have. The only way to know, if you want to know , is to ask.