I’m a 16 year old guy and a closet bisexual… I have a major crush on this guy in my school. Earlier in the year I caught him staring at me a few times (he’s a football player and he always sat the bench… lol anyway, he would usually stare at me when he was on the sidelines and in the halls at school) I told one of my friends I thought he was cute and she told him. He IM’d me on Facebook and asked me and I denied everything. He basically told me to stay away from him… When second semester came, we learned that we had 2 classes together. We got sat by each other in each class… In each class a few other people and I noticed that he was staring at me. And whenever I would look at him, he would quickly look away. He usually acts hyper and stuff, but when I get around he acts more awkward and quiet. He avoids all eye contact with me too. Whenever I made the people around us in class laugh, he would always look down at his desk or feet and laugh too (he was trying to hide his laughter). He did that quite a bit. He’s come up to me a few times and tried talking(I accidentally ignored him.. I didn’t know he was talking to me once and I didn’t hear him the other time) but then I tried talking to him in the halls and he acted annoyed the whole time. He also cheered one day when I got a question wrong in my history class. It’s summer now and he came into my work one(a pizza place.) I have never seen him there before and he came after I posted on my Facebook where I worked (could just be a coincidence though). He wouldn’t even look at me the whole time I was there… I recently asked him on Facebook if he still hated me and he said he didn’t hate me, but he still doesn’t like me that much. I’m really confused and I just want to know what you guys think.
If you have a major crush on him, why, may I gently ask, did you deny your feelings when he first asked you? and, when he tried talking to you, and you accidentally ignored him, did you try to break the ice by making amends for the oversight?
By what you have written, it appears that he has made attempts at connecting with you(whether casual, platonic, or otherwise). Also, I wouldn't put too much stock into him being benched most of the season as a reflection of his playing abilities. Lots of great players have sat the bench. Anyway, he's getting beat up by the coach enough, do you really want to add to his stress. Wouldn't you rather be the ray of sunshine he looks forward to everyday?