I’m a 19 year old male and I’m bisexual and I tend to like guys more. I came out last year to everyone (My senior year of High School) but I had been out to friends and certain family members since I was 17. My question or problem is that I think I scare off a lot of people from the LGBT community because of the way I dress, carry myself and attitude I give off. I tend to wear metal shirts, I have my ears and septum pierced, I workout a lot, I’ve got more then a fair share of scars, basically lots of people say I look,sound and act like a hardass and I mean I kind of do. I’m never anything but nice but I’ve been told on multiple occasions that I intimidate people all the same, I really do want to be more approachable by people in the gay community but I don’t want to give up who I really am either, I’ve even gone to the LGBT club on campus but even there I’m met with wary looks, Is there anything I can do to be more approachable without having to change myself?
You're right. You shouldn't have to change yourself. There are plenty of lgbt's that fit your discription, sadly though, maybe not enough or out ones in your circle of influence. However, that shouldn't mean that people will not accept you. Keeping being kind and genuine, and people will naturally gravitate towards you. Lots of LGBT's do not fit the stereotype.