My boyfriend kicked me out of his gay suite-mate’s room to dry-hump him as a “joke”. So the question is: Is he bi? I’ve tried to talk to him about it, but he just gets angry at me. My boyfriend has had a gay suite-mate with whom he hangs out often. The gay suite-mate often played jokes on my boyfriend, such as grabbing his butt or pinching his nipples. My boyfriend (who is not very masculine to begin with) is pretty lenient and “open” and would laugh about it. One day, we were hanging all together in the gay suite-mate’s room, (who had showed us his vibrator). My boyfriend then started to “joke around”, asked his gay suite-mate if he needed help “to get in the mood” and then went on top on the gay guy’s back and kissed him down the neck. He then “acted” super awkward towards me so I asked laughingly if I should leave. To my surprise, my boyfriend said yes. I stayed awkwardly waiting in the common room to wait them for them to finish, and I called my boyfriend’s name, thinking the “joke” was going too far. I only heard giggles and so, really upset, I went back to my room. 5-10 minutes later, my boyfriend texted me asked me where I was and they both came knocking on my door, laughing. Later on, while I was in bed with my boyfriend, I asked my boyfriend what happened in the room, and he said straight out he dry-humped his gay friend. This story has really left me scarred and I thought I was going to break up with him immediately. My boyfriend then kept on swearing it was all joke, that it was an immature and stupid thing to do, that he really loves me and only gets aroused around me, but I can’t help but feel doubts in my head. He said that the “kicking out” was part of the joke, and yet my brain refuses to accept it. What to believe? Can guys do this really “for fun”? If it were a joke, why did he kick me out?
I'm assuming you're straight when I use you in this analogy: Would you jump on the back of your lesbian suitmate and kiss her down the back of her neck, then proceed to go down on her, even with her clothes on? for ten minutes? and kick your boyfriend out of the room so you can carry on the joke? I didn't think so.