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So a girl at my work is a lesbian and I’m straight. So she’s been hitting on me for like 3 months, and I’ve always thought it was creepy. And we stopped talking for awhile because I was gone on a trip. I come back and she flat out says she has a crush on me. so after more talking I realize wow she’s a really cool person and she’s beautiful. So I tell her I like her too and we’ve hung out and things have now gotten weird and I don’t know why. She texts me everyday..I let her initiate the text. She still talks about other girls which I don’t really care about because I wasn’t going to get into a relationship with her..but I was wondering did I scare her off? did me telling her I like her freak her out…or was she just seeing me as a challenge? I guess it kinda bothers me that I tell her and she just shuts down. I know she has a crush on another girl, but why be pursuing me so hard then just be like oh whatever. I guess I just don’t know what she’s thinking., and I kind of wanted a different perspective on what I should be doing. I started just being standoffish to see if she would still text me which she does..but it is still weird.

Val

That baffles me also. Why lay it on the line and then not seal the deal. It's obviously not you because she knows you well enough through work and kept pursuing you. Maybe, and this is a generalization, since women tend to be nesters, she's seeking a longer term relationship. Or, she's just shooting blanks. Whatever the reason, hopefully you'll remain friends. I'd try talking to her about it.

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