Hi, I just turned 15 years old and I’m pretty sure I passed by the stage of being bicurious and I am bisexual.. I am in the closet. People think I am gay because I am a competitive dancer.. But I say I’m not. I watch gay porn sometimes too. I have had girlfriends before but dated for like a week or 2 .. This year I’ve met a girl and I absolutely love her!! We dated and broke up but still today we like each other , a lot. I also this year met a new boy from my dance studio.. I’ve always wanted to experiment with guys.. He’s a nice guy and a good person but I don’t want to be using him.. During christmas break I messaged him and we talked all night… We talked 3 times and he hasn’t come out to me I guess.. Our dance competition is in July. I’ve asked how he felt about guys and he hasn’t told me.. I’ve told him how I felt about guys and he was pretty supporting about it.. However, he said he will talk about how he feels during the competition, I asked if he would kiss me and he said we should talk first… Does this mean that he is in a way? I thought that if he was truly straight he would say no… I start to fantasies what I can do with him.. Any tips and answers you have for me and my situation?
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From my experience, I have only pulled all nighters on the phone with people whom I was starting something with. He will come out to you when he is ready. You two should also be focusing your energy on your competitions. Guys come and go, so stay focused on being the best person and dancer that you can be.
Interesting that you have accepted your bi sexuality at age 15, however what I understand, you have never been intimate with a guy? I certainly admire your courage, “coming out of the closet” to approach this guy, without knowledge of his sexuality. I can say, without a doubt, he’s experiencing the same emotional anxiety you, as well as each and every gay, bi sexual person has gone through-more so at younger ages! I can assure you, he’s just as excited as you and filled with thoughts of sexual fantasies to share and explore with you!
I’m 52 years old, however, it wasn’t until I was 42 years old, when I finally confirmed my struggle with thoughts of being bi sexual. The thoughts were infrequent, beginning when I was about 14 years old.