I just got out of a two-year-relationship,he broke up with me because he cheated on me. We had a rough patch of months, mostly because I had trouble adjusting moving to the USA and leaving all my friends and family behind in Europe. I admit that I was very frustrated, sad and irritated because I was always dependent on him to get home, to do anything really. I am a very independent person and being stuck at the apartment did not help the situation.  I am still very hurt by his act but the one thing that puts me over the edge is the fact that they are still in contact and talk often. I finally moved out and got my own place, managed to get a car and get my independence back. However, I still have feelings for him, and after some discussions, it turns out he does too. We decided to cut down on contact and any kind of communication, time to get us to think about if we could even bear the thought of being back together and forgive what happened the last few months. I have been trying to figure it all out but I can’t get over the idea that my trust is broken on so many levels (he lied to me, said nothing ever happened, then he said it happened just once although it was going on for a whole week), when we got together, we were aware we would be apart for a long while but we still promised to be monogamous and the mere fact he actually cheated on me just made everything I believed crumble. I forgave him, but it still hurts and it haunts me at night when I miss him or think about him. Can one get over it for real? or is it still going to be part of my fear for the future? I really want to be back with him at some level, but I am afraid that my trust won’t recover from this whole situation and that it will never going to be the same. Or that he will fall back and repeat the same action. Or that I will get so paranoid that I will drive ourselves crazy. I don’t know what to do or what to think anymore. I never thought I would have to deal with that with him, especially because we had plans to get married, to get kids and move back to Europe together. Any suggestion or sharing of experience is greatly appreciated!