I am a 20 year old gay man from Johannesburg, I am very straight looking and no one suspects that I am gay, been dating guys since the age of 14 and recently this year, I met a guy via football (I am a professional coach and he is a player) so we clicked about football but I realized I have a serious crush on him, I tried to tell him one night telephonically that I like him, I was drunk, he never answered directly, just laughed.  The following morning I couldnt stop feeling guilty about it, I decided to bring it up and pretend as if I forgot what I said on the phone the previous night, he also pretended as if he cant remember what I  said whereas he was sober. A week later I confessed that I am “bisexual” and wanted to see his response, then he didnt seem shocked or anything, he was just himself, no funny remarks, just asking how do I know, told him its natural but later on I told him I am jokingm he said “Ok Good”  My feelings for him just didnt get any less, I ended-up confessing for real now that I am bisexual (not gay- for his sake) and his only question was, am I dating both or what; told him NO I am single, he said Alright then we got closer and closer.  I visited him one day, spent a day then went back home, he sent me messages like he is missing me already bluh bluh, replied that I miss him too, he started to send love messages on BBM, Hugs and one day shocked me to say “I love you Bro” and this went on daily, we chat everyday, now recently we call each other brothers and tell each other how much we miss each other and how much we love each other, he calls me every now and then, I do the same, the first BBM Message I get everyday is from him, when hes gonna sleep/I sleep, he enever miss out telling me that he loves me and all, recently he said we must stay together and that he wants to spend more time with me.  I am really inlove with this boy but I am so scared to ruin this by asking him out or kissing him, because he never said he is straight and yet never said he is gay, he posses a “straight” impression, talks about girls and all that. Plase advice me, what should I do? Ask him out or just grab and kiss him? Or live with this brother thing? I love this guy with all my heart