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I am a 15 year old guy who lives in a small country town. I am not sure about how many people in my school year know that i am gay but i wouldn’t be surprised if they all knew. It’s not like people will be violent towards me if they did know because a surprising amount of people are gay, lesbian or bi at my school any way. I am in a relationship and when I was talking to a group of guys, one of whom has been my friend since pre-school even though we aren’t best friends anymore. Anyway that friend asked me if i went out with the guy i am going out with because apparently he saw us holding hands in the playground even though we weren’t. I said “How did you know” and pretty much word spread. At the time i was thinking “who cares what they think, it doesn’t change anything I’m still the same as any of those guys except for the bedroom preference” and I still act the same way around them as I always have. But now I am a bit unsure about…well everything. And I am starting to think that maybe I shouldn’t have done it. No one has been violent or hostile towards me. There is of course the occasional taunt or joke but it doesn’t really bother me. I guess I have no question all I really need is some advice on the subject if you have any. Thanks.

Val

Thanks for the question. You're a brave young man for choosing to live your life openly. It's natural to feel doubt about telling people about your sexual orientation. After all, you're 15 and there are certain things that are beyond your control, like the community you live in and the school you attend. It sounds like you live in a fairly tolerant community since other people are out as well. That's good news. The other good news is, in a couple of years, you'll be more independent, and these issues won't be such an issue. If this guy in question starts to harass you based on your sexual orientation, be sure to report it. Harassment based on a persons sexual orientation is not bullying, it is harassment, and illegal.

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