So there is a guy I like a lot! But I am not sure if he is gay or not. But he gives me reasons to think that.
1 – He stares me a lot, and when I look and make eye contact he looks away.
2 – He is always around me.
3 – He hugs me for the most little thing.
4 – Grabs my hand.
5 – He doesn’t behave with other guys the same as he does with me.
6 – He always finds a reason to kiss me on the cheek (he makes it look like a joke ) .
One thing bothers me… sometimes he is aggressive to me. I am not out of the closet and neither is he. The problem is that I am not sure what to do! 2 things can happen he is gay or he is not and tells everybody I am and you know the rest. Almost forgot, he is very shy and we are both 15 years old . Cheers!
Val
If he is flirting with you and you are interested in him then I would just ask him what his preferences are. If he is aggressive towards you, then you should not put up with his behavior and you should let him know that as well.
AMW
Aww. 15 what a sweet hell! First off, the aggression may be a way of expressing his confusion. Let me just mention aggression in most situations will and can lead to greater aggression and maybe violence. Keep your eye on that.
15 and maybe gay. Yikes. This is a tough one for me. I didn't come out till I was 21. What kind of chance to do you want to take? The type of actions you mentioned are usually hints to homosexual attraction.
You can ask him. You can flirt back. You can make the first step. Remember safety first my young friend. If you feel safe enough to take the action then please do so. If you do not feel safe. Do not. There will be someone else to take a chance on.
Justin
"WITH FOXES, WE MUST PLAY THE FOX." – THOMAS FULLER
You are not ready to come out of the closet on your own yet. You are not ready to have someone “out” you. The only way to ensure that a secret is kept is to not tell it to anyone. You cannot trust any fifteen-year-old alive to keep a secret. The guy in question has exhibited aggressive behavior. You must resist any desire to excuse or overlook that character defect.
The writing is on the wall. The young man you have written about is not the right guy for you; your school is not right place; now is not the right time. Your safety and emotional well-being must be your primary concerns, and they would be put at risk if you were to pursue any deeper involvement with this particular hunk from you high school’s hallways.
Do not fret. The right guy, the right place, and the right time will synchronously fall into place for you one day; and when they do, you will know it with every fiber of your being.
I wish you fair winds and following seas.
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