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"WHAT LIES BEHIND US AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US ARE TINY MATTERS COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN US." - RALPH WALDO EMERSON

Some might find the topic of your question to be rather "ticklish", but I don’t.

You are bisexual. You are attracted to both sexes.

You are not straight. Straight men are not sexually attracted to other men, and straight men do not invest mental or emotional energy on the feet of other men.

You are not gay. Gay men are not sexually attracted to women.

Your cathexis for male feet is easily explained as a thinly veiled psychological trick you have devised to comfort yourself. Because you are bisexual, you are attracted to men; but that attraction obviously still causes you deep-seated fear, shame, and guilt. In order to avoid facing those negative feelings, you have quite cleverly decided to obsessively focus your attention on a single, less complex issue that is more palatable to you: men’s feet. Your obsessive thoughts comfort you by providing the false narrative that you are not actually attracted to men because your attraction to them encompasses only their feet, but I am here to forewarn you. Because that narrative is patently false, it will only be able to comfort you temporarily. The day when you must deal honestly with your sexuality will inevitably come. You cannot run from the truth forever. I lovingly suggest that you scroll through this site's archive and read responses given to readers who inquired about how one comes to accept his true sexuality and how one comes out of the closet.

Once you have learned to accept yourself as the person you were born to be, you will discard the emotional crutch of your cathexis for male feet; you will find your soul mate instead of your "sole mate"; and you will love every glorious part of him, not just his feet.

I stand toe-to-toe with you as you begin a journey of self-discovery, and I wish you fair winds and following seas.