Hi  I’m openly gay and 10 months ago I got introduced to this guy who is straight but I always had this feeling that he’s not, we became really good friends. anyway 8 month ago he slept in my bed and we kissed and then it was a daily thing that we see each other I asked him if he’s bisexual or gay and he said that he’s bisexual and I’m cool with that. so 3 month ago he told me that he has feelings for me and he would like to spend more time with me and i said yes of course cause I like him too  anyway time passed but during all that time we didn’t have sex at all I always thought that he’s not ready cause I’m him first guy so I asked him and I told him tell me the truth cause honesty is number one in my life and he told me that he wants to but he’s scared or not ready. so time passed but I cant help it to think that we are just a fling cause 1. no one knows about us 2.he didn’t say anything until now that he wants to be with me or anything. so I decided to ask him to tell him what are we but I don’t know how to start the conversation cause I don’t want him to feel that I’m selfish or thinking about myself or this conversation is about sex cause its not or losing his friendship  but at the same time I  think about him that he’s new to this and he’s not ready I keep telling myself I  think about him why cant he think that I’m openly gay and my life is an open book that I don’t hide anything cause I’m not ashamed of what I’m doing or who I am so why cant we meet in the middle  like I’m not asking for him to come fully out to everyone no I want him to tell our group cause its getting annoying to hide this amazing feeling from the people I love (we both in the same group of 5 friends) what do you think