Ok, so I think this guy at school is attracted to me but I’m not really sure.. Tell me what you think. In January our school went on a field trip and we basically spent the day talking, listening to our mp3s and sharing our music. When we were at the play we sat next to each other and we joked around a lot like falling a sleep and stuff. A long time before we were joking around and he started to lightly rub my back in a circular motion, another time we were practicing testing and I don’t know why but I just looked up super fast and I think he was staring at me because he freaked out. I’ve tried to see if he punches me back when I punch him but he doesn’t (roughly anyways) Also he makes eye contact a lot, stretches when we’re talking, comes to my table at lunch and tries to talk to me and sit next to me sometimes. But I’m still not sure because he has talked about girls but and intercourse with women (once). I do too but I’m bisexual. We’re both in eighth grade, 14. Please respond!
Val
The fact that he talks about girls means that he may be bisexual like you. He may be waiting for you to make the first move. If he's straight and comfortable then it shouldn't bother him, after all he is comfortable hanging out with you. I'm assuming he knows you're bi.
Kelly
My 2 cents is I think that he may be experiencing feelings for you. But at 14 he may not know exactly how to deal with them, hence the mixed signals you are getting.
There are a few ways to deal with this. 1 - you continue to let the friendship grow organically and see where things go. 2 - Given the right time and place ask him out on a date or inquire if he's ever thought about guys in that way and see what he says.
I take it your curiosity in how he feels about you is because you have feelings for him. Does he know that you are bisexual? If he knows that you like guys and he is making an effort to hang out with you he's either curious or he's a really cool accepting guy. While the latter seems like no consolation it will hopefully make the awkwardness less if you do expose your feelings for him and he's not interested. And if that does happen my advice is to put your ego aside and don't let that hinder your friendship. Sure it may be awkward the first few times you see him but after that it gets easier if you let it.
Unfortunately we still live in a day and age where it's not always safe to be open about our sexuality. Be safe and congratulations to you being so young and open-minded about your sexuality.
Best of luck to you.
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