How do I set my boyfriend straight and make him to listen to me? ———- On monday I asked my boyfriend to tone the roughness down during oral sex and he was totally cool with it and didn’t even touch my head when I did it. (I think I may have slightly offended him though)  ———- He has been gentle with me ever since …but when we had sex yesterday night he was the opposite of gentle and on the border of violent, he gripped me really hard (like my hips, arms, hair), he also pushed my face into the bed so it was hard to breathe, he didn’t prepare me properly (quite dry) and scratched my back: ————I was so pi.ssed off afterwards, I told him to go f.ck himself and leave me alone and in return he shoved me to the floor and then kicked me in the stomach before leaving. I am so angry at him right now, he had no right to kick me when he was the one that was acting like a d.ck. I don’t know what ticked him off, because he’s not abusive or anything. ————–Anyway what can I say to him to set him straight and make sure he knows how he acted was out of order (when we usually fight we just forget about it the next day, but they are never physical) because he has been texting me all day asking why I’m pis.sed because ‘it was just a stupid fight’ when its not… (I am not in an abusive relationship because were both guys)