I have been dating a man for 18 months. We met on Facebook, we live 2k miles from each other, but we have visited each other 7 times and talk via phone and Skype everyday. I guess at this point I should also tell you I am female. My first thought from our first phone convo was, he sounds gay. He talks gay, the sound of his voice, the way he talks, but I overlooked it because I really liked him. Even when my friends and family have talked to him, they all think he sounds gay. As the days passed, we grew closer, I found out he had been married before and he has 2 children, the cause of the divorce was his ex cheated on him and after the divorce remarried. He opened up to me, that when he was a teen, he was molested by an adult male, who thought he was gay. This man was married with children at the time, but has since divorced and come out. My boyfriend has had this man as a Facebook friend for a few years, but a few months ago confronted this man on Facebook about what took place when he was a teen, the man finally admitted to what he had done, and at that time my boyfriend deleted this man from his Facebook account. I have actually asked my boyfriend a few times if he is gay or bi, each time ha has said no. But something still tells me he could be. He has been in jail a few times for DUI’s, he did tell me the men always thought he was gay, because of the way he talked, his response to me was it was because they never heard educated men speak. He also told me, a female he was interested in years before, also thought he was gay, he told her no, he was not gay, he told her he had been married and he had kids, her response, “they could be your beard”. Our sex life at first was wonderful, but in the past 5 months he has stopped all flirting with me, and the last visit he only did the act, and only kissed me once (deep kiss) he continued to say he loved me, but something felt “off”. I guess I should also mention he loves anal, I have also seen him use a dildo on himself during sex and he has told me his ex wife performed anal on him. I will also share that he is a boob man, he loves womens breasts. I also have this question in my head, the last time I was there with him, I noticed he cut his nails, but, he keeps his left pinky nail very long. I have read some articles that this is a sign to other gay men that he is not out of the closet yet. Is this true? My little voice keeps telling me that there is a very good chance my boyfriend is gay or Bi, but maybe just can’t accept the fact yet. I love him very much, but I myself am very confused. If anyone can advise me on whatIi should do, if I should ask him once again about his sexuality or if I’m making something of nothing, please respond. Thank you