I’m 21 and I’ve found myself attracted to guys that are soft voiced and and more cute than masculine men. and I’m confused. Like I’ve had girlfriends and stuff but lately I’ve been looking at guys so much I think about them not women anymore. My first kiss was from a guy called gay jay, lol, as you can understand I can’t ask people about this. It’s starting to really mess with me. I feel almost a long to be with a guy. I know people don’t just turn gay and I’ve kissed a few guys but now the feeling is so strong I find my eyes drawn from women to men. Can someone please just help me. It may seem so little to you but I can’t stop I mean if I’m gay I would be disowned. I just can’t stop thinking about the male body in this way. What the heck is going on pls help.
The good news is that you inherently know that someone doesn't just turn gay, and you are right. Although we are born with our sexual identities, people come out, and even identify as LGBTQ at different times and in different ways in their lives based on their own cultural, religious, political, and familial environments. The more tolerant your surroundings and what you've heard, been taught, and experienced, the more likely it is to accept your sexuality. The opposite is true as well. Here is a good article for you and our readers: http://teens.webmd.com/features/coming-out-as-lgbt-teen. Although it is written about teens, it holds true for most LGBTQ people coming out, as it is filled with some very good words of wisdom.