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I was always aware that I was different from most other boys. I was never physically fit as child, picked on even by girls when I was young. Never really fit in anywhere as a teen, became isolated, became obsessed with reading, playing guitar, drawing and watching movies (political thrillers, film noir, war movies and musicals: especially Cabaret and the Wizard of Oz). I made a few attempts at going out with girls, but I never succeeded in having a girlfriend. As I got older I was able to talk to girls on a personal level, being sensitive, I enjoyed listening to women, hearing what they have to say. I still find women attractive, physically, as well personality wise. However, I have never really been sexually attracted to women, not like the way I am toward men. Aside from being artistic and sensitive, I am not flamboyant; I speak in a deep voice and calm manner. I am also deeply religious, and incredibly moral, so for me to acknowledge being gay, made it rather hard. Because most Christians see gays as being against God’s will; I have since decided not to abandoned my faith in God, but to embrace it, because those so-called Christians do not speak for God but for their own ignorance. The reason why I decided to finally embrace my true self, and I am writing this in praise of women, is because of experience that I had volunteering at an organization that deals with violence against women. My volunteer coordinator mentioned to the group of volunteers that she was a lesbian. The way she mentioned it, and brought it up, she was not ashamed of being a lesbian. I was impressed by her, her story made me comfortable, to the point that I e-mailed her, thanking her for sharing it with me, I said to her “All my life, I have had a hard time admitting to myself that I am gay.” From then on, I have told my sister, and a close ‘girl-friend,’ in a similar fashion: both of them were more caring and compassionate than I could have hoped they would be, they both said they loved me and accepted me for who I truly am.

Val


Thank you for sharing your story. You are an amazing young man to put yourself out there and share your story with our readers. It has helped more people than you could imagine. Also, thanks for your kind words about women and lesbians in general. The world needs more men like you!

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