I think my boyfriend is gay.   This man is a great guy! He’s been with lots of women, and he’s sort of going through this depression right now. I want to ask him if he’s gay, but I’m not sure if that has anything to do with the depression and I don’t want to push him, while he’s already close to the edge. So, if you expect he may be gay and holding it back you should let me know how I should approach him as well. We have been together for less then 5 months now. signs: – Very thoughtful and sensitive.( not like most men, but still doesn’t prove he’s gay) -His gay friend recently went through some depression issues, now he is going through the same thing. -On one of his blogs (he doesn’t know I read them) he said something about “been there done that” to comment that was like “why don’t you give up your self- contradictitory homophobic religon for lent” On the outside, you can barely tell at all that he may be gay. These are the signs that really make me think he’s gay. -He can’t keep an erection sometimes when we have sex. ( I’m a pretty, fit girl and he’s a 24 yr old male..doesn’t make sense. sometimes he says he thinks he has low testosterone, but he could also just be gay)  -He says things like, I can only get off, if you get off. (he sometimes won’t get off at all, even after I’ve got off) -He likes doggie and anal. Way too much. More than me on top. – He some times says things to me like, You should save your self now, meaning he’s all depressed and he doesn’t want to drag me down with him… or he’s gay, and looking for a way out of this relationship??? okay so, I like this kid alot! I have for a really long time and I know he likes me too. I just way to often catch myself wondering if he may be gay. This whole relationship is flipped around, I find myself acting like a man, whiles he acting like a girl. I’m a pretty, independent girl who has he hobbies and does well in school. That’s what he likes about me, that’s what most people like about me. And sometimes I feel like he’s thinking ” well I have this great girl now and I should stay with her ” and denying his gayness… I dont know. It’s complicated, but I need to know what some one else thinks before I go accusing him. And I need help on the best way to approach a gay man about being gay when he hasn’t  come out about it himself yet. I’m not just his gf, I’m like his best friend too, and  he may also not want to loose that with me, by comming out. please help.