I just found out my son is gay. Really I’ve felt this since he was a child, he’s 22 now. My daughter told me about him being gay the other day, so what I thought or felt is true. He won’t talk to me, when I’ve seen him he just turns around and walks away, it hurts me very much. I don’t care if he’s gay, I just want to know how to talk to him and bring this up, according to my daughter my ex wife said I’m not supposed to know. If anyone can help me with how I should approach this, it will be a big help, the main thing is I want him to know that it does not matter to me I only want him to be happy and have a good life, I’m very proud of him.
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For whatever reason he’s feeling awkward about you knowing and it’s likely that he will continue to be silent about this, so, you have to initiate the conversation. Tell him you need to talk with him, sit him down and just flat out say say, “I know you’re gay and I love you and I’m proud of you.” Something that a lot of straight people don’t know is that many gay people are uncomfortable in their own skin. We all don’t walk around proudly claiming “I’M GAY!” to everyone and a lot of it has to do with the ramifications of people finding out we’re gay, such as losing friends and family members, being negatively judged, religious reasons, etc., so sometimes it’s a relief for a gay person to not have to initiate the coming out process. So do your son a favor and end his anxiety about him telling you and just do it for him. You obviously love and support him and once he hears you say, “I love you and I’m proud of you,” that will be music to his ears. I hope this advice helps!
-Anthony