I have been with this guy for 7 years, lived with him for 6. Beginning last year I stumbled over a few things such as screen names and then websites on the computer. I asked him about it and he said he didn’t know what I was talking about. Then I found some tapes he had made, yes those kind and he was with another man. So the screen name and websites were right. He said it was a one time thing but I watched 2 separate occasions, well not watched but I know there were 2 separate occasions plus some because I couldn’t go through any more. I told him to be honest with me, that I could handle that a lot better than him denying and lying to me. Then I literally talked to him from a website for hours one day, he didn’t know it was me of course so I brought home the stuff to try to show him that I know and he didn’t have to hide it anymore but he still denied it. Later I came home from work early and a man was there, a black man not that I’m racist but he’s very very southern and acts like he is, apparently it is an act. But the monitor in our bedroom showed our living room and he had no shirt on, out of breath, sweaty. Come on, I’m not stupid I told him. Of course he denied it. The day I talked to him on the computer when he thought I was a man he said he was bi but more attracted to men. If that’s the case then why doesn’t he be honest with me. He says he loves me, so if he really loved me wouldn’t he have come clean by now especially after all I have confronted him with. I think that’s not fair to me. Oh and during this time he also was having an affair with another woman. That’s how I found all this out. My detective skills are awesome. If you could shed some kind of understanding for me that would be greatly appreciated.