I’m a 26 year old questioning female. I’m physically attracted to both guys & girls, but I’m not sure if my physical attraction to a guy or girl is sexual or not. What is sexual attraction? How can I know for sure if my physical attraction to a guy or girl is really sexual attraction or not? I know some people say sexual attraction is like when your physical attraction to someone makes you want to have sex with that person. That doesn’t help me out much. Is it a strong or really strong urge to have sex with a person? Also, is there such a thing as just being curious about having sex with a guy or girl, but not being sexually attracted to the person? If so, how do I know the difference between the two? I’m sexually curious about both sexes, but don’t have much sexual experience. I’ve never been with a girl sexually & I’ve only been sexual with just 1 guy, but haven’t went all the way yet with a guy.
AMW
A person's physical appearance has a critical impact on their sexual attractiveness. This involves the impact one's appearance has on the senses, especially in the beginning of a relationship: Visual perception (how the other looks and acts);Audition (how the other's voice and/or movements sound). Olfaction (how the other smells, naturally or artificially; the wrong smell may be repellent).
I will add that one's attitude also contributes to sexual attractiveness. So if a person qualifies all these points and this type of person is of the same gender then one just might be gay or lesbian. Some claim that bisexuals qualify these without gender.
Time will tell. Good luck.
Val
I think the best barometer to determining sexual attraction is when someone you are interested in gives you butterflies. Although sex is an important component in a relationship, your attraction will manifest itself in many other ways as well. You'll find yourself thinking about that person, wanting to share quality time together. Yes, you can be be physically attracted to a person but have no desire to have sex with them. You can also be curious about having sex with a guy or girl but not be sexually attracted to that person. You can also be attracted and curious enough to try it without having to label yourself. I say don't worry about the labels and follow your inner compass. Your personal preference will become more apparent as you date more people.
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