My daughter claims to be a lesbian. I say claims because she gets a boyfriend in between break ups with her girlfriend. She now has begun to spend the night with a different girl. My daughter swore to me that they were only friends. I have read through her texts and have found out that they are a couple. How am I supposed to deal with this? Do I not let her have sleep overs at girls houses because of this? I don’t want her to miss out on the basic teen experiences just because she is a lesbian. Please let me know what is appropriate for a mother of a lesbian daughter to do.
Val
Thanks for the question. It will help more mothers than you can imagine. If your daughter is identifying as a lesbian, then you should be supportive. Although you may think she is just experimenting, or that she may be bi, the fact is that she is identifying as a lesbian. It could be that she is in the process of coming out. The appropriate response would be to be supportive of your daughter. check out www.pflag.org for great information for parents. I can tell you 100% that the best way to go forward is to be accepting of your daughters sexual identity, and always support her.
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Hi there, I am having a similar issue with my daughter. I guess the question is: do we continue to let our daughters to sleep over their female friend houses ? Isn’t that like giving them the opportunity to be intimate? My daughter is 14 yrs old & if she were in a boy/girl relationship I would not allow sleepovers because of the obvious reasons. I want her be a normal teen & have sleepovers, but how can I when she may the girls? help